We all have objects in our homes that we hold onto for no practical reason — a chipped cup, a worn-out jacket, or even an old train ticket. For some people, throwing these items away can be a source of intense anxiety. Why do certain objects feel so indispensable, even when they no longer serve any purpose?

This article explores the psychological reasons behind hoarding, why letting go can feel impossible, and practical strategies to help reclaim both space and peace of mind.

The Anxiety of Keeping Everything

Moving, lack of space, or a simple desire for change can suddenly make the need to declutter unavoidable. For some, this necessity triggers a sense of panic. Take Martine, 38, for example, who was forced to clear out her overflowing basement.

“Piles of boxes filled with old papers, dust-covered furniture, bags of books… I know all these things are useless to me now, but just seeing them nearby reassures me. The very thought of throwing everything away terrifies me!”

Psychologist François Vigouroux explains that “the pain comes primarily from the act of letting go rather than attachment to the object itself. The fear is strong because it feels like breaking an emotional bond.” It’s not just the object we leave behind, but a part of our history — and sometimes, the person who gave it to us.

A Lack of Trust in the Future

Hoarding often stems from a deep-seated fear of scarcity. When asked why she keeps outdated clothes, Isabelle, 46, says: “You never know, it might come in handy!”

Vigouroux notes that this reaction is typical of people who have experienced deprivation, either personally or through their parents. “It often ties back to real past experiences, like living through war, or being raised by parents who passed down their own anxieties.”

Catherine Huvelin, an NLP practitioner and life coach, adds: “Someone who has been taught to trust the future knows they will find a way to cope when the time comes. They won’t feel the need to preemptively prepare for future needs, and letting go of the superfluous won’t be a problem.”

The Role of Upbringing

Another reason people cling to old possessions is identity: “All of this is part of me,” many hoarders say. In other words, “What I own is who I am.”

Psychoanalysts link this tendency to what they call an “anal” personality type — a developmental stage where children learn cleanliness and the concept of giving. Adults who struggle with this stage often received overly demanding upbringing. As a result, their attachment to objects and inclination to hoard is stronger than those whose early childhood development was less stressful.

Holding On as a Way to Assert Oneself

For some, keeping objects from the past is a way to affirm identity and existence. Rebecca, 44, explains:

“In my drawers, you’ll find train tickets, my high school notes, old dance slippers, a doll whose head has been worn down over time. I tell myself that someday I’ll want to see them again.”

Huvelin notes: “Holding onto memories gives the impression that the past is still present, that you haven’t abandoned who you were. Possessions serve as proof of our value and power. But ultimately, it’s our actions that define us, not our belongings.”

Practical Tips for Overcoming Hoarding

Start Small and Visualize Success
Act as if! Ask yourself: ‘If I had to throw things away, where would I start?’ The first things that come to mind are the ones you can discard without fearing regret. Visualize the space you’ll gain and what you can fill it with. Think of the happiness it will bring. This will give you the courage to start.

Understand the Root Cause
Finding the root of the problem is the best way to overcome it. Talk about your fear with people around you, examine the emotions you feel toward each object. Comparing your situation with that of your loved ones can help you understand your behavior. Most importantly, wait until you are ready: asking someone to throw things away for you will only increase frustration and make the process harder.